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Going on a date with an engineer can be challenging as some topics can make him or her engaging, but many will make them get bored and lose interest. This post will dive into the mind of an engineer, how they think and what is considered a good date for them.
Engineers are extremely passionate about their job. Therefore, engineers will be far more engaging if you show him or her that you are also passionate about your career. In addition, engineers like details and hate mundane topics. Consequently, avoid close-ended questions and discuss topics both of you are interested in.
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Before we can discuss what is considered a good date for an engineer and the topics you can discuss, we need to discuss how engineers think to help you understand them. The following is a quick crash course on how engineers think.
How Engineers Think
The following are some things you can keep in mind that are common for all engineers.
Engineers get lost in thoughts a lot:
Engineers spend most of their time solving complex engineering problems, which sometimes are quite complicated, making them space out and get lost in their thoughts. So if you see them staring into space a lot, it does not mean they are ignoring you; they are just thinking about the engineering problems they are trying to solve.
Engineers hate small talk for good reasons:
Engineering work is detailed, and because engineers live in a very closed culture, most of their friends are also engineers, which is why they love details. You talk about a problem, and they think of a solution: this is how their engineering brain works. So avoid close-ended questions that are answered by yes and no and ask more open-ended questions that get their engineering brain to think.
They are super smart but not arrogant:
While it is true that engineers are intelligent, they are quite humble in their own way. Most engineers overestimate how much people know about engineering, which is why they tend to speak in uncommon terms, which sometimes sounds arrogant, but it is just engineers being engineers. So be patient; if you do not understand something, you can ask them to explain it, and they will be more than happy to do so. After a while, you will get used to the way they talk.
More about how engineers think
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What to do on your first date with an engineer?
What is an ideal date for an engineer?
An ideal date for an engineer will most likely be different activities on the same day, such as having quick drinks to get to know each other before going to a short game of bowling or arcade games. Their engineering skills will most likely manifest when doing physical activity, and you will get to see their fun side. Then finish the date with a dinner or a walk which is your chance to get to know them on a personal and romantic level.
What is a bad date for an engineer?
Avoid a date that revolves around going to a museum or watching a movie; although those activities will be good for a second or third date, they are difficult to get to know him or her on a first date. Also, if you are going on a date with an engineer, it might be best to avoid a traditional dinner date.
What should you talk about on your first date with an engineer?
As discussed earlier, engineers hate small talk and love details, so these are some good opening questions to get to know them:
- Why did you choose to engineer? You can also use this question to discuss why you chose to work in your profession.
- What is a normal day for you as an engineer looks like?
- What is the most challenging thing about your job?
- If you were not an engineer, what would you be?
- What do you do with your time outside work? Good question if you can find something you are both into.
- Are you into Marvel or DC movies? Most likely, YES, and it is a good question if you are also into them.
